Hey I’m Whitney, the “Brown Sugar” in Brown Sugar and Latin Spice.
I’m glad you’re here. I wanted to share a little about myself and how I got to where I am today. I used to be the "helper". You know the one who was always there when you needed them. I had people around me that weren’t able to return the favor. So I bottled up my emotions and tried to go through life with a smile on my face, pretending like everything was ok. Well it wasn’t, let me tell you, I was far from happy and no longer knew who I was, I wasn’t living, I was just existing. I was drained from the family and friend relationships I had. I was unfilled and burnt out at work. I wasn't taking care of myself. I couldn’t keep living life this way, I knew there was more to life than this.
So I decided to do something about it. I’ve been able to transform myself from someone who didn’t love herself, felt empty, took on too much of other people's chaos and would put everyone’s needs before hers…... Now I am someone who knows what she wants, when to say no, takes care of herself, and knows when to bounce if the shit ain’t right.
You’re probably wondering how it all started. As I mentioned before, I haven’t always been this way. I was the one that always volunteered to “help”. I’d help my coworkers with their issues at work like taking on extra tasks to lighten their load, help my family get their life together, help friends break out of negative mindset that’s been holding them back, and even take on extra tasks to help my boss out. My breakdown happened the fall of 2013. I was a full time grad student in an advanced standing program, worked a 40 (+) hour job, plus 15-20 hours a week for my practicum. When I got home I had to show up as Whitney the wife and mother, I needed to make sure home was good, at times it wasn’t. I began to crumble, I hid behind a smile. My body couldn’t take it anymore. I was unbalanced, my cup was empty, my boundaries were blurred and had lost me in the midst of trying to “help” everyone else stay whole. I was in the midst of chaos and had find my way out. I needed to show up as WHITNEY, Bold, Daring, Creative, Free, Limitless, Firm and WHOLE. Once I begin taking care of me I was able to do more for myself and my family. I began to look at wellness as a whole. I’ve taken the time to work on each of our elements of wellness and build the life I want to have.
I strive each day to be Better not perfect.
So why should you trust me with your goals, dreams and ambitions. Well let me start by saying I’m a licensed Clinical Social Worker. I’ve been in the helping field for over 7 years. I’ve lived through the pain, please understand this is just a snippet of my life. I was able to overcome my adversities in order to make it to the next level. I utilized my education, created a support system and worked on self-care.